Bullies are not like the bullies in the movies. Now, they are the angels to the teachers and hurt the shy boy with subtle words that sting. They will make him squirm as he sits trying to pay attention to class while the bully relentlessly glares at him with eyes that burn the skin. They will “accidentally” trip him while waking down the hall, saying sorry without any meaning. They seem untouchable to the shy boy, but they aren’t. Bullies are the ones who are insecure. They make others feel bad to make themselves feel better. They take away part of one’s pride to fill the void in theirs. But their pride is no longer repairable. They have made a fool of themselves by even insulting that first little boy they saw, making fun of his rolling backpack and following him during passing periods kicking it from all sides. People stare, and they think they are thinking, “Wow, they are cool,” but they are actually thinking, “look at those jerks.”
When ganged up on, it seems impossible to feel good about oneself, but one must never believe what ever they are saying. Once again, they think they are “cool” but, everyone knows, they are really just weak people who are confused and have nothing to do. But does that make it right? No. Some one must take a stand. And once done, others will join in the effort to break down this bully and turn him in to a friend.
Bullies are the ones in need of a friend, and though it seems impossible to befriend them, one must take it slow, and find a common interest, and figure out how to convert him from a tormentor into a friend. The bullies feel in power, so they wouldn’t step down from their “throne” so it is the jobs of the victims’ to band together and solve the problem.
I really appreciate the way you concluded this post. It seems paradoxical, but bullies are in fact the ones most in need of REAL friends. Oftentimes bullies have a 'posse' of people who follow them but do not have anyone who really understands them.
ReplyDeleteI also agree that feeling bad for bullies does not mean we have to accept their behavior. We all need to work together and take a stand when we see bullying behavior.
http://hldepartmentofwriting.blogspot.com/2010/08/respond-to-yens-thoughts-on-bullying.html... the url for my response.
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